Letting go of something/someone is a difficult task. Because we don’t want to let go of a feeling, a memory, an old pair of jeans, an old blanket… name it. Why is it so hard to let go? Is it fear? That with that something or someone we also let go of our selves?
Maybe that’s just it, we don’t want to let go of something because we like OURSELVES at that moment, not the things itself?
That something we need to let go may be harming us- mentally of physically, and yet we still can’t let it go because we like how strong we act in the face of danger? In the face of pain?
When we are clinging on to something it prevents us from seeing and meeting the new, the good, the life-changing. We are stopping ourselves from becoming a different person… Maybe a better person, maybe worse. But if we did turn out to be worse then it is up to us to learn from it and bounce back!…
I do believe, and always have believed, that people deserve a second chance. But only to an extent that they can’t hurt you or anybody else. I remember sitting in a class-room and the teacher said “Those of you who believe that someone who is in jail deserves a second chance, lift your hand” and I was the only one to raise my hand. Why? Because I thought there had to be something in this person’s life that made them do bad things. There had to be someone that hurt that person and that is hardly their fault?! I don’t want to sound all Disney, but I believe most of the evil people, once shown that they too are worthy of a good and happy life, will turn back into good.
Can we let go of the past and give people a second chance? Can we show acceptance and forgive? Surely, if it was me that made a huge mistake, I would like for a second chance to prove that ONE deed does not necessarily categorize a human.
Then again, I am contradicting myself by not taking sides with people who harm children, animals, their families.
So- really, the question is-
HOW DO WE JUDGE ON WHO DESERVES A SECOND CHANCE AND WHO DOES NOT? sO THAT IT WOULD INCLUDE THE PEOPLE THAT HAVE BEEN HARMED THEMSELVES AND DRIVEN TO ACT MAD, YET TO EXCLUDE THE ONES WHO ARE SIMPLY ILL AND PSYCHOTIC. AND HOW WOULD WE EVER KNOW WHO IS NOT A PSYCHO AND WHO IS?
I need to let go… now. From this topic, because the arguments would be never ending.
So maybe letting go isn’t the main point? Maybe its the resistance against letting go? Resistance to believe that we can move on and we get stuck in the past. Resistance to try out new things and we get stuck with the old. Resistance to love someone else other than ourselves and we get stuck in a mean world?