So, I am seeing this really interesting discussion unfold on FB at the moment. And I haven’t commented on this yet, simply because I haven’t really thought of it a lot. Don’t shoot me for it! I just don’t want to say what I think if I am not sure, you know?

Topic- “should same sex marriage be legalized?”

I am seeing some interesting arguments on both sides and I really just can’t figure out which way I would rather think. I guess I am just a “grey area” person…And maybe being a “grey area person” is a bad thing. Are gay couples a threat to a nation/culture moving forward? Should gay-rights be banned on the basis of an argument which states that in democracy the minority will always win against the majority? Should the sacred institution of a family be “extended” to same-sex families and would children really be destroyed by it? Or would they be more culturally open?
When I am put in front of a choice- would I rather a child to grow up in a religious family or in a gay-family, I would choose the latter. Religion, in my eyes, only stumps one’s brain and “availability” to discover what life is really about. Maybe I am wrong. Given, that the gay-family has explained everything to their child and are giving the child a choice to find themselves on their own- yes, that would be my first choice. Because this is what every parent would do (hetero or gay). No, I do not have children, so what do I know right? Well, being a child myself a decade or so back- I was given the freedom by my parents to make my own choices about what I believed in and when I made a mistake I was made to learn from them. My mistakes were never wiped away by my parents nor were they simply “forgiven by God” …

Being a “grey area” person is safe. This way I don’t offend anyone (too much)… How could I explain myself without bringing down the wrath of either opposing side?

Let me try!


I have absolutely nothing (NOTHING) against gays. Whether the same-sex-marriage law is there or not, these people are still going to exist and live and share their lives with their partners. And good for them! Human being wasn’t meant to be alone. Yes, a bit of solitude will always help by finding one’s true self, but in life we all need a partner and whether they are the same sex or not- who am I to judge?


Opposing the same sex marriage law- is being “worried ” about the future of a nation, about the growth of one culture. Now, yes, culture is really really important. But here is where I can’t really side with those who oppose the same sex law. I am not worried about same sex marriage. No, let them at it. Let them enjoy life. As long as the family is treated fair and sincere- how could I oppose? What I do oppose is the so much loved integration! Integration of cultures (such as EU/World is aiming for) is  the real threat of a culture dying out. Ha! Now, you’re thinking- “But, Liis, You are in Ireland and INTEGRATING”… Yes, I am in Ireland but no, not integrating. If you want to argue about this with me- leave me a comment and let’s go!


Now, I might be wrong about all this but I do believe that a line should be drawn with everything. Every single person will always decide where their own personal limit lies. With some- their limits are only personal, helping them keep a clean conscious. With others- they are trying to think further ahead and for their nation? I am no one to say which one is right and which is wrong. I think a bit from both sides. What it all comes down to (and this is where I always end up at) is the individual level. We are all different. We all have different values, different beliefs and I really do not know what is right and what is wrong in this case.


Choice or born this way? No, it’s not a choice. Being straight or gay, in my opinion, is not a choice. It is person’s individual characteristics (for the lack of better way to put it?) What really matters in this life is- How pure and clean are our intentions? How corrupt we are or aren’t? How we treat others…

Seems like at this stage I have come to make up my mind and I have no ill-wit toward either side- we all have a right to be here  just the way we are and we will all have the right to believe in what we think is right. Instead of worrying about gay/straight rights start worrying about what religion is about to take over your “pure nation” and is actually killing the culture; start worrying about what your country allows to happen to your  Fatherland’s nature; start worrying about innocent people being killed by drones; start worrying about Earth being poisoned by fracking; start worrying about chemtrails; start worrying about the lies you are being fed through your TV and through the news; start worrying about endangered animals who have more of a right to live on this planet than us humans do and are going extint because of our actions;  start worrying about the rising number of homelessness; start worrying about the people who have NO rights at all (because in some countries things aren’ that great); start worrying about Guantanamo Bay still being in “action; start worrying about the medicines that are being pushed out to the market that are really just poisons…


I guess my point is- there are many evils on this planet that should be dealt with great passion. Giving rights to gays is not one of them. I understand if someone feels threatened by gay rights- it is their choice. My choice is to focus my “anti”-arguments towards religion.

Kind regards,